Ruby

So last night I watched Sunday's Ruby with the "gentle eating" and I don't have food issues but there is no way I could eat like that.  It took about 45 minutes for them to eat a plate of food & they couldn't speak or drink during the meal.  If I can't drink during a meal I'd probably only get about 5 bites in & have to give up...my mouth gets way too dry when I eat to not be able to wash my food down with something.

Then during her "hacky Thanksgiving" dinner she had healthy & fattening food & if I were her I would have told my friends & family that if they wanted to eat the fattening food they could have their own dinner the next night but if they wanted to share the holiday with me it would be healthy food only.  I mean, talk about enabling!  Jeff & Georgia say they don't enable her & then they deep fry a turkey & make all the fattening sides like stuffing & mashed potatoes & expect her not to eat any of it?  Putting the food on her table is enabling & they don't see it that way but then again, enablers rarely think that they are enabling.  Ruby did try to get everyone to try gentle eating and they basically laughed at her & I would have too...a holiday is not the time to try an experiment.

There is just something about Georgia that I don't like...in all honesty I don't think she wants Ruby to lose all of the weight.  I think having Ruby around and all big & fat makes her feel better about herself & if Ruby does lose all of that weight then she'll have to find her own self confidence & I don't think she has any.  I feel like she doesn't have the best control of her son (who either has Aspberger's or Autism) and she enables him constantly just to keep him quiet.  I think if she doesn't have Ruby to "take care of" then she'll be forced to see the damage she is causing in her own life but so long as Ruby "needs her" then she doesn't have to worry about herself or her problems.